I was once talking to one of my patient’s daughters about some issues regarding her mother’s health and her current daily activities. This daughter is kind and polite since I’ve known her and this day was no exception.
Even more interestingly when I noticed my eyes all watered after exchanging a few words. She was mentioning about life away from her sons – both professionals and working in a different city far away from home.
I couldn’t contain some soft tears after she asked me a particularly special question.
What was it that made my tears sprout from my eyes?
Are your parents here with you?
No, they are not. And as much as I have embraced my life abroad, one that I love, I definitely miss them on the daily life. I think of them every day even when we don’t speak every day. Her question was tender and sweet and it made me realised how amazing emotions are, as well a great reminder of how much I love my parents, no matter what kind of life or home-base I’ve chosen to this point.
We were right on the main hall and I was dressed with my white coat, available to everyone’s sight. Completely vulnerable.
But I didn’t care about being seen by my other patients, family members or coworkers. Because we’ve been taught forever that doctors have to be strong, tearless and almost senseless at times. And we’re definitely not. It’s actually impossible. Why should we hide these tears professionally speaking anyways? We shouldn’t.
The kind lady noticed my watery eyes right away and she kept on talking so naturally with a kind smile on her face and her eyes.
“You’re sensitive and that’s wonderful, that’s why you felt emotional. It’s admirable.“, she said.
I treasured her words as I tried to chew them and stick them to my memory album.
I wonder how many people, not necessarily on the health care business, feel the need to suppress or hide their feelings when something happens. Not even work-related.
How about with our partners, our friends and our family members? How much do we share out feelings? The happiness is always shared and it makes a wonderful sensation. But why not do it with the sad feelings too? It’s therapy. It’s a way of going through any situation, no matter how big or small it is.
We should feel them and know our body in them. All kinds of feelings.
I’ve felt many different things both at home and travelling, alone or not, happy or sad or mad. And the more I let them flow through my system, the more I know myself and the easier it becomes to recognise my own self under so many different situations. It even makes you react wiser and better!
Really, I believe we should all talk more about our feelings. We can learn a lot from sharing them and even be surprised on how similar we all feel in the very end of things.
I am convinced that sharing your feelings helps to have a better understanding.
Which makes a better attitude, which makes a better us.
I wonder on how much better our social circle (not the entire world, let’s start small) can be if we do this more often.
I wonder if you feel the same way about this and if you have felt better any special time you shared your thoughts. I bet it was a complete relief!
Well, say no more. Instead, let’s talk some more every time we need to. I truly believe communicating is one hell of an art and I’m certainly no master on it, but I try to become better with every experience I get to live.
How about you?
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